Be prepared for homesickness and be aware that it is not a symptom of immaturity or serious lack of adjustment to college.
- Sometimes it hits right away, sometimes later, sometimes not at all
- Even students who live close may be home sick
- Students may have been testy before leaving home—makes the separation easier
- Encourage your student to stay on campus the first three weekends
- Letters, phone calls, e-mail, and care packages are all good “band-aids;” care package suggestions: food, school supplies, toiletries, quarters for laundry, anything family (pictures, letters, drawings from younger siblings, newspaper clippings), gift certificates for local restaurants, or posters)
- Reaching for the phone at “down” times is a freshman phenomenon, parents often receive a skewed view of their student’s psychological well-being, the “ups” are reserved for friends … parents get the “downs.” Be patient with those “nothing is going right I hate this place” phone calls or e-mails. If you do think something is seriously wrong, though, do contact us. Best place to start is probably the Student Life Office, 402-643-7411.
The FERPA form will help us communicate with you during these times of concern…FERPA—Federal Education Rights and Privacy Act, a federal law designed to protect the privacy of a student’s educational records, once a student turns 18, information from his or her student record cannot be shared with others, including parents, unless the student gives his/her permission, the law does allow an institution to disclose records without consent in some special cases, including health and safety emergencies, thus, we are not at liberty to divulge anything from student records without the student’s permission—have them sign the release form if you want us to be able to share information with you. If you are not sure call 402-643-7411.
Please read the following common stages of what your son or daughter will experience
as a freshmen. Students are shocked at how accurate this is…
The Honeymoon – A couple of new friends and no tests for at least three weeks and all this “free” time between classes. Like being at camp.
The Reality Check – Where did all this work come from!” What do you mean I have to read the textbook? This paper has to be how long and it’s due when? And where did all of the time go? Homesickness may appear during this phase.
The Grass is Always Greener—They are sure that transferring somewhere else will
solve their problems. No doubt they would be doing better at another university. At this point, it’s too early to make that decision.
You Can’t Go Home Again—This starts the first time they come home to visit. They are hit with the harsh realization that life for the rest of the family goes on without them. (“My mother turned my room into an exercise room!!!!”)
Mid-Semester Panic—“All my teachers are giving tests at the same time!”
Living for Thanksgiving Break – the countdown!
Pre-Christmas Mania – they get goofy and giddy. The semester is almost over and I get to go home!
After the Break – “Christmas break was great, but it was a little long. I am ready to get back.”
Putting it Together - they come to see college as a total experience. They realize that hard work and achievement must be priorities but do not totally exclude time for having fun.